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I learned that ever since the agricultural revolution human beings came to feel the necessity of having their own families and thereby passing their inheritance down to younger generations. Being the receptacle and shelter of genetic materials women were encouraged not to have more than one partner each. If they were to have multiple life partners then no one would be able to determine which child belongs to whom, and the whole point of having a family is gone. The rise of monogamous relationships.

But surely we don't consider monogamy a norm just for this reason. Unfaithfulness, cheating on one's partner, these things are usually frowned upon no matter what sex/gender you are, and regardless of one's sexual preference.

Even though I myself detest men who cheat on their women, I often thought that if given the opportunity and equipped with the right bodily features, I would be guilty of lust that is not grounded in one place. As long as women consent I would be a free game.

Now -- even though I consider myself a feminist through and through, I don't think I can condone such a behaviour in a woman. I know, this is totally discriminatory. A character like Samantha in SATC is quite a charming character and I like her, but only because she is a work of fiction. I cannot say that I would be happy if I were to see my friend behaving in the same way. This kind of double standard puzzles me even though it is I who possesses it. It's completely crazy and disturbing.

Why can't I accept women who have sex like players -- have one night stands in mutual consent, don't keep one partner, just get it on whenever they feel like?

I can't come up with a remotely valid, justified answer. I suppose this is the worst kind of prejudice, the one that even i, the possessor, cannot try to justify.

It is quite curious however that I should feel this way. Should I blame the years and years of male-centric education that I received? Am I just wired to think that way? I don't think something like this can be inherent, so I think I can rule the last one out.

The sexual climate in Korea is not as different as I thought. People are more open about sex even though it's not comparable to us Vancouverites. Sex looks to the outsiders like a more perverted subject because it's still hidden behind doors and people who do talk about it don't treat it with the proper respect and sensitivity. While some people make love, spend the night together, have sex, others fuck.

I have yet to reach the conclusion in terms of my prejudice. Is it bad that I have such a notion? Must I think that all humans that walk the face of the earth are free game? Sexuality is there to celebrate hence one should be allowed to get it off whenever necessary/possible?

I don't intend to find answers to these questions but the exploration should be quite fun.